The first stage of healing: - I truly believe to heal you need to forgive. You need to forgive everyone who has ever hurt or harmed you. You need to ask for forgiveness for everything you have ever done to hurt or harm another. You need to forgive yourself for everything you have ever done to harm or hurt another.
This is the 3 stages of forgiveness. BUT this is where it can get difficult for some!
Surely it is not right forgiving someone when they hurt you really badly. Maybe those people you hurt unintentionally really deserved it. Can you forgive everybody except that one person like your mother in law for example?
Does it mean you condone what they have done when you forgive them?
This list can go on and on and will be part of another story but for now I want to introduce the first stage of healing. For healing and forgiveness too take place you need to get all these issues out of your system.
This is what I suggest you do. Get a pad / book anything you feel comfortable writing on, a pen or pencil and write. It does not matter what you write or how you write as long as you write. Make a list of topics you want to write about. Write out your anger, the disappointments, the sadness whatever comes to mind - just write.
Now the secret here is to get all these issues out of your head and onto paper, if you read what you have written you place all this information back “into you”!
When you are done writing – don’t read it – just tear up the pages and burn it. Now take the ashes and scatter them in the wind. This is the quickest and easiest way to get rid of issues that are worrying you. Remember the other party had long forgotten about these.
Some problems may need more time so you may have to write them out 3 or even 4 times – it does not matter. Just write.
Don’t read what you have written, tear it up, burn it and scatter the ashes in the wind. You are giving a clear message to the universe you are done with this issue/problem.
You will find your writing will slow down, the anger will dissipate and you will move onto the second stage of healing by gracefully accept the forgiveness decree! (I found this Forgiveness Decree on Diana Cooper’s website). http://www.dianacooper.com/exercises-and-meditation/decrees-mantras/#decrees
I forgive everyone who has ever hurt or harmed me, consciously or unconsciously, in this lifetime or any other, in this universe, dimension, plane or level of existence or any other.
I offer them grace.
I ask forgiveness for everything I have ever done to hurt or harm another, consciously or unconsciously, in this lifetime or any other, in this universe, dimension, plane or level of existence or any other.
I ask for grace.
I forgive myself for everything I have ever done to hurt or harm another,
consciously or unconsciously, in this lifetime or any other, in this universe, dimension, plane or level of existence or any other.
I accept grace.
I am free. All chains and restrictions fall from me. I stand in my full power as a master.
So be it. It is done.
I am available to assist you on your healing journey. You just have to contact me. See my website www.reneefraserbrown.co.za or email me email@example.com
First published 10/24/2018
Comments from when first published.
1/25/2019 07:18:53 am
The first stage of healing will always be acceptance. It's not enough that you only believe that you will get better. What if you did not? Your soul would have been crushed prematurely by falling from great expectations. It's better to start on a clean slate with zero idea of possibilities and accepting that whatever happens will always be and will be the best for you because it's God's will and he will never give you anything less than what is due. It's not even because you deserved something, even if you feel you know a lot already, there are things here on Earth that we just can't explain easily.
Renee Fraser Brown
1/25/2019 10:25:07 amI do agree with you but as I do a lot of readings for people who have already accepted this.
My task is to make it easy for them to accept and forgive.
And again there is so many ways of forgiveness. The important thing is to forgive. Otherwise you carry this burden with you forever.